You Are Already a Miracle: The Courage to Let Go of a Life Shaped by Scarcity

Author Bukkeubukkeu (Park Su-yong) · Publisher Cheongnyeon Jeongsin · Published 2026-05-25 · ISBN 9788958612629

About the Book

Freedom from the gaze of others

The author confesses to past deficiencies, where he believed his value was determined by external numbers such as follower counts, sales graphs, and promotion scores, and asks readers:
“When you strip away your business card, title, and the applause of others, do you still remain yourself?”
This book is not merely a healing essay advocating for 'letting go.' Through numerous experiences gained while facing life-threatening situations as a professional soldier and unique insights honed in the digital battlefield, the author presents a practical philosophy rooted in life, offering concrete attitudes on how to escape the 'prison of others' gazes' and walk at one's own pace.

How is a life that doesn't need proof possible?

We live in a society of 'achievement addiction,' where performance equals self-worth. A life where one feels secure when numbers rise and anxious when they stop is like constantly running on a treadmill. The author, who managed numbers by writing every single day for over 700 days, realized that he had become a 'machine managing numbers' rather than a 'writer.' He then uses Erich Fromm's words to sharply contrast the 'having mode' and the 'being mode' based on this realization.
Possessions accumulated externally ultimately lead to emptiness, but a deeper sense of being within brings unshakeable peace. He states that he feels more free now, having torn up the instruction manual of numbers that defined him, than when he left his 14 years of military service and its ranks to venture into the wild.

How does deficiency drive me?

The book explores the fundamental 'deficiency' that makes us obsessed with proving ourselves, through five chapters. The author admits that his attempts to describe his 'weapons' as '120,000 followers' or 'author title' were, in fact, products of a deficiency stemming from a fear of not being recognized.
He now tells his readers, "You are already a miracle." He reminds them that value doesn't come from achieving something more, but that their existence alone is enough from the moment they are born. By the time readers close the last page, they will gain the courage to find a map drawn not by others' directions, but by their own footsteps.

From the Book

Instead of introducing myself, I display myself. My actions become data, and each day becomes a portfolio. As Fromm said, modern people treat themselves as commodities. A branded self, a managed image, a self that must constantly be upgraded. We feel the fear of being erased if we are not recognized.
_Page 26

Winning felt like being an okay person. That feeling was the problem. Being okay was always conditional; I was only okay when I was better than others. Comparison was like an addiction. Winning against others felt good for a moment but quickly faded. So I compared again.
I thought I would be okay if I was just a little further ahead. But even when I was ahead, my mind wasn't at ease. There was always someone ahead of me. I realized then that there is no end to comparison. No matter how far I went, I kept changing the standard and judging myself.
_Page 57

Those who chase results easily become impatient. But those who build themselves do not rush. Because they know their direction. I am the same. Today, I simply write diligently. Writing changes with each effort. Yesterday's sentences and today's sentences are different, and last year's thoughts and now's thoughts are also different.
A person whose routine is writing is someone who has conversations with themselves every day. Someone who faces themselves without fail every day cannot be the same as yesterday. Daily contemplation silently changes a person.
It accumulates invisibly, but over time, it leads one to an entirely different place.
_Page 193

Table of Contents

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Prologue - The Man Who Dramatically Changed His Destiny 008

CHAPTER 1
Why do we constantly try to prove ourselves?
A Strange Man Reflected in the Window 017
People Addicted to Applause 021
Why We Feel Anxious When Performance Stops 026
The Real Me Hidden Behind a Title 033
The Invisible Prison of Comparison 039
When Deficiency Precedes Existence 045
How Deficiency Drives People 052
How Comparison Erodes Life 056
Why Achievement Becomes an Addiction 061
Why the Life of Having Ultimately Leads to Emptiness 065

CHAPTER 2
How is a life that doesn't need proof possible?
The Fact That Being Comes First 073
Relationships Without Rank 077
Who You Are, Not What You Do 084
How to Find Your Own Grain 091
A Person Sufficient by Name Alone 096
A Life That Doesn't Lose Its Instinct 103
An Attitude That Doesn't Live Like a Tool 109
Where Does Presence Come From? 114

CHAPTER 3
Common Traits of People Who Change the Direction of Their Lives
The Courage to Let Go 123
Being Able to Say No Makes It Your Life 129
It Wasn't the End, But the Beginning 134
You Must Break to Change 140
People Who Find Answers by Acting 146
How to Break Up with a Familiar Life 151
How Is a Choice Without Regret Possible? 156

CHAPTER 4
Ultimately, What Changes People Is the Power to Endure
Experiences That Push Limits Change People 165
The Secret of Those Who Endure to the End 171
How Is Tenacity Built? 176
How Far Does Immersion Take a Person? 179
A Perspective That Turns Failure into Growth 184
How Routine Sustains Life 189
How Is Mental Resilience Developed? 195
Those Who Go at Their Own Pace Do Not Collapse 200

CHAPTER 5
Living as an Unwavering Self
The Strongest People Listen Well 207
Living as an Independent Soul 215
Authenticity Is the Longest-Lasting Competitive Edge 219
How Humor and Composure Become Strength 224
Remembering Death Clarifies Life 229
Existence Itself Is Already a Miracle 233
Things Possible Only Because It Was Yourself 237

Epilogue 241